Domestic Violence Affects Everyone…Advice on love, sex, relationships, or dating…”Jei Knows it All!”


Q: Dear Jei,

I have been married for almost 12 years to my high school sweetheart, and for the past 5 years he has started becoming abusive. He lost his job about 3 years ago and has been working scattered jobs here and there but never managed to find anything permanent. I really feel like this is the reason for his anger. We have 3 children that are 10, 9 and 8 years old and he is not abusive to them but they have seen him be abusive to me. I am so torn…  He always says how sorry he is and that it will never happen again. He claims he is just stressed and that I am bringing out this frustration. I have talked with my pastor and he advised me to seek out professional help but my husband refuses to go because he says he does not have an issue. I have 2 daughters and a son and I don’t want them seeing this but I don’t want them to be away from their father. None of my family and friends know about this and I feel like I am trapped because I have no one to talk to. When I keep pleading and he is not willing to get help what more can I do?


 A: Dear Flower2be,

First, I want to tell you that you are not alone. So many women that are victims in abusive relationships feel hopeless. However, if you want to get out of that relationship, help and support can be found. If you stay, there are measures that you can take to protect yourself, and there is help available for your husband to address his problems, should he be prepared to do so. If you want to leave, even if you have no money, there are crisis centers and shelters that can accommodate you and your children. There is always something that can be done, so there’s no need to feel isolated and afraid. High school sweethearts or not, no person, man or woman, deserves to be abused. If your husband is not willing to seek help, then you need to do what is best for you and your children and take the necessary steps to protect yourself. Clear and rational thinking is vital so that you can make the right choice. No matter what he tells you, you are not to blame. You mentioned he would never harm the children… but he is harming them, because they are the sideline spectators to your abuse. Children live what they learn. Only you can change that. Please feel free to email me here at Drama Scene and I will help you connect with people that can help.




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  1. October 3, 2013    

    Thanks Jei, Here is our info.
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    For safety reasons, our Shelter’s location is not publicized. Access to our Shelter services is available through our 24-Hour Hotlines.
    Domestic Violence Hotline
    (713) 528-2121
    (713) 528-3625 TDD Line
    (800) 256-0551 Toll Free Line
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    (713) 528-7273
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    Houston Area Women’s Center
    1010 Waugh Drive
    Houston, TX 77019
    (713) 528-6798
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  2. Katherine Jones's Gravatar Katherine Jones
    October 10, 2013    

    Dear Jei,

    At what point do harsh words become emotional abuse? My husband and I have been going through a tough time and we are currently separated. It steamed from years and years of his jealous outrages and him continuing to accuse me of cheating. He belittles me and calls me out of my name in front of the kids and I couldn’t take it anymore so I moved myself and my three children to my mothers. The last few days he has been calling and saying he is sorry that it won’t happen again but it always does. He says he doesn’t have an issue and the reason for his outburst are because I make him angry. He does not think this is abuse and says everyone gets upset. I don’t agree, I think he needs help am I wrong for not wanting to go back?


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